Unconditional love.

I already told you everything about love in yesterday's Dharma lecture. 

Friendship you say is also included in the category of love.

Love is originally one, but it can be largely explained in two ways. (In other words, the love you say and the love I say are different.)

Nature, such as the sun and rain, gives unilateral love to everything in the world, but there is no one-sided love, that is, no purpose in it.

The other is the love that ordinary people want to communicate with each other, which may have started with pure love at first, but later on, it turns into pain after exchanging it for some purpose.

In your e-mail, you said, "I just want to say hello and say hello," but if you sincerely said hello to the friend, the purpose has already been fulfilled.

However, if the reason why you were offended is that you didn't get a reply from that friend, it's not just a greeting, but an action that you wanted the other person's love or attention.

It's technically a transaction, as mentioned earlier, love that we want and want from each other causes problems and pain when the flow of mutual exchange is not smooth.

The source of all pain is due to the desire. 

In the end, if you don't know unconditional love and believe that what is not love is love, this pain will inevitably be repeated.

It is greed to want a reaction to the love I give to the other person, and if I force it, it becomes stalking. 

A young child laughs at strangers, but it's not an act of asking for anything, it's just it.

You can vaguely understand what I'm saying, but you can't live like a pure child right away from tomorrow.

Because understanding is limited, for that reason, all the problems you are experiencing now are to leave behind and ask you to find yourself first.